Polyamorous, on WishMood.com for 2+ years seeking long-term romantic relationships (open to sex/kink). Also use Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, and Hinge.
It's my favorite by a mile. The major advantage is honesty and specificity. People state what they're looking for upfront - long-term, ONS, a "bull," etc. - which saves immense time compared to "vanilla" apps. The poly/kink community also tends to be more chilled and less desperate in my experience.
The experience varies significantly.
- For women seeking men: Very easy. I have thousands of likes. A free account is sufficient to browse nearby profiles.
- For men seeking women or women seeking women: More challenging. A paid membership (for features like "Ping") can help, but my partner gets plenty of dates without it.
Be completely honest in your profile about what you want. It's also fairly safe to use recognizable photos, as the app is still niche enough that you're unlikely to be spotted by acquaintances.